When your new boss is possibly younger than your children, it can make being the newbie at work seem even more of a challenge, but when you begin a brand new career in your fifties you simply have to get over it and get on with it. I’ve now completed the first week in my new job and although there’s been times when I’ve felt totally out of my depth, and have even questioned whether I was the right person for the role, with the help of my extremely supportive co-workers I’ve finally gained some much-needed confidence.
I was thrilled to find out that my office is full of house-plants, my desk has dual screen monitors and I can help myself to as many hot drinks as I can physically consume throughout the day. This is certainly worlds apart from anything I’ve ever experienced before and it’s amazing. I’ve also enjoyed a leisurely lunchtime stroll through the nearby meadows with my colleagues, watching massive, red dragonflies and pretty little butterflies, before sitting beside a lake in the sunshine for some girlie banter.
I know that there’s going to be plenty of challenges ahead, but I’m sure that if I can take the plunge and start a brand new job at the age of fifty four then anyone can!
If you’ve made some great new friends since being single, chances are they’ve recently introduced you to some equally great new places and experiences. This can be quite an eye-opener, especially if you’ve been a bit ‘set in your ways’ up until now. If you’d previously been too unsure of yourself to hop across the channel on a ferry, or not had the confidence to join an evening class, then these types of activities, along with hundreds more, can now become a regular part of your exciting new life.
Instead of being a hermit or sticking to a familiar routine to avoid anything ‘scary’, the world can now potentially be your oyster. Don’t make excuses any more, jump in with both feet and allow yourself to feel truly alive.
I must admit, than when well-meaning friends offered to meet me in town for coffee soon after my break-up I was thinking of every excuse under the sun to get out of it. I wasn’t feeling well (I was fine). The weather was too bad (it wasn’t). I have to be somewhere else (I didn’t). However, there’s only so long you can keep fobbing people off before they give up asking, so I bit the bullet, brushed my hair for the first time in a week, put some shoes on rather than my tatty slippers and I walked out of the front door.
Real friends will understand that you’re feeling a bit ‘fragile’ and will happily tolerate hearing all the boring details for the 10th time because they care about you. Once you’ve been out into the big wide world a few times your confidence will definitely grow and what once felt a terrifying prospect will become a real pleasure.
When you’re newly-single, it soon becomes apparent that there are an awful lot of firsts in your new life, and none are quite so overwhelming as the first time you venture into Tescos to buy ‘meals-for-one’. When you’ve spent all of your adult life shopping for children and/or partners, it’s extremely strange to no longer need certain aisles. You end up automatically in the meat section – even though you’re vegetarian. You pick up men’s deodorant that’s on special offer and ALMOST put it in the trolley. You look at enormous boxes of cereals thinking that will last a week when in reality it’ll last 6 months or more!
The best thing to do when faced with this type of situation is not to ask too much of yourself. Don’t try to figure out what a ‘weekly shop’ for one will involve, but just get enough to tide you over for a few days. Little and often will slowly re-build your confidence, and will prevent you from bulk-buying perishables which will end up in the bin. Now is not the time to be wasting your hard earnt cash.